Separation Anxiety Tips
Separation anxiety is problematic for the parents too! We are very much aware and want to be there for you and your family. However, it would help if you had some reassurance as well. Ask a Mi Escuelita teacher to be in contact with you later in the day to let you know how your child is doing. Many children experience a harsh separation at MI ESCUELITA drop-off, only to move on happily a short time later. It will put your mind at ease if you know your child eventually adjusted once you left.
Do not sneak away
It seems to make sense. Get your child focused on something he enjoys, and then sneak away, so he won’t remember he already misses you, right? It is incredibly counterproductive. Your child will eventually realize you’re gone and will be confused. The tantrums/withdrawing/crying could start up all over again. And he’ll struggle even more the next day and the next, knowing you could disappear at any minute. It’s far better to say goodbye and let your child see you walk away.
Follow Routines
Keep your morning and drop-off routine the same each day of Mi Escuelita. When your child knows what’s coming next, they can mentally and emotionally prepare for it. It also helps your child feel in control as they prepare for the next step in the day. Of course, new factors will arise throughout the year but try not to add anything to your routine while your child is still adjusting to Mi Escuelita. Please let us know of any changes at your home or your schedule.
Developing your own goodbye ritual can also be very effective for the drop-off. For example, come up with a special handshake, hug, or code word to use in the same way each day of preschool.
Accept and validate your feelings
You know what? You’re also going through a lot during this time, and that’s okay. Don’t push your feelings aside. Instead, talk it out with your spouse or friend if you feel guilty, sad, frustrated, or something else. Plan something calming to do or meet up with a family member or friend after the first preschool drop-off. Separation anxiety is normal, and you and your child will come out of this much stronger.
Reflect
Practice reflecting. Listen to what your child says and repeat it to them. For example, “I hear you saying you feel worried” instead of “You’re worried.” It helps your child feel like you’re listening, which allows them to feel more validated and capable of moving forward.